47f here and just broke up with my shithead boyfriend of 3 years (42m). I caught him TRYING to cheat with a 22 year old sugar baby. So dead to me and fuck off forever and blocked!
Been a month, I had to move on. Got on bumble 3 days ago and was hoping for someone my age, but it’s ALL younger guys. 350+ likes and they don’t give two fucks about my age. I don’t plan on sleeping with anyone unless they’re special and we click but, hot damn, one way being a woman is easier.
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Even Gen z girls I’ve talked to are like “get it girlfriend! Men suck!” So that’s nice
Most guys in that age range have already given up, sadly. Not gonna be much on the apps but if you go out you will have more success
They’re looking to bang and older women are an easier target they assume
Yes, when I was on the dating apps, there were tons of younger guys.. my cutoff is 30 years old though. Even then I felt that was too young.
I’m having the time of my life dating a 48 year old women I matched with. I’m 27. Definitely enjoying each other lol.
Keep in mind tho that matches with men on dating sites don’t mean much. They all just swipe right on everyone. The way men play the game has made it so you can match with just about any guy you want to – but it doesn’t mean he’s actually interested.
Men have broken online dating completely.
u/Ok-Lavishness5365 I’m sorry this happened to you. It sucks. There’s nothing wrong with dating people who are in a different age group than you. I just found that dating younger women is tough. We have completely different interests (I would think it’s the same with younger men).
Do what makes you happy, and do your best to make others happy.
I’m in my 60s and date men from 30-70. I could easily go younger but there are plenty of men in the 30-70 range. I don’t seriously date men who are much younger but they are fun to hang out with. Sometimes there is sex but not always.
Damn, sounds like you upgraded from trash to treasure real quick!
Just be careful. The age difference may not matter in the early stages of dating. Once it gets serious, there may be alot of differences that may surface.
When I was in my 20s, I exclusively dated older women. I was 22 and messed around with a 37 year old, for example.
It wasn’t really about them having money because I was fine in that area. I thought that older women played less games, which kinda still holds true. Because of the age gap, there was no ambiguity about our status like some people struggle over in situationships with partners of the same age. Older women also have more experience, which I craved.
I’m sure younger women feel similarly about older guys.
If you are or were hoping to catch someone your age. Why did you not filter based on yiur age?
No wonder it’s so difficult for us grown men of 50+ to find a similar aged women online if they’re going after the kids.
They don’t care about your age because they’re actually looking for nothing more than casual flings.
I had the same thing happen and I did find men my own age, it just took a little time and effort.
The gender difference here is fascinating!
Stay off the apps. Dive into an interest or hobby, find a group or people who are doing the same thing, perhaps someone that shares the same interest will pop up. Apps are nothing but a desire satiating fuckfest. I luckily have known my lady for a long time, and we started dating a few years ago. I’m)33m) and she’s (50f) mesh very well. Collaborate great together in so many parts of life.
Even though we know we aren’t together forever, we’re having a great time and being very beneficial for one another.
Hope you find what you’re looking for. Keep your standards up, your head high, and never quit vetting and being on top of seeking what you want for yourself. Best of luck.
I disagree a little bit 34m was seeing a 47f and had a great time while it lasted, dating women the same age as me or younger they’re just not interested and honestly I find the people of my age group and younger immature and can’t get their shit together.
While there are exceptions, young men see less hurdles and expectations with older women giving sex. It just flips the power dynamic. If both sides agree, there is no problems
I have also seen a lot of younger men/women get wrecked in these arrangements though. Specifically, getting too emotionally invested, and then being crushed when they are discarded. Just something to be mindful of
I think it’s about emotional stability and consistency. I met a 24-year-old at a gym I went to often; I’m 35. He pursued me pretty heavy, and I think it had a lot to do with me not wanting a relationship. We ended up being exclusive for around three months until I moved from the area. We still talk, and I have helped as an emotional soundboard as well as advice on planning for the future as well as career skills. It was and still is a good relationship. I made a point to never call him mature for his age because he wasn’t lol and always made sure that where I’m at in my life was very clear.
It’s weird because i think young guys and older women make great friends. Younger guys tend to listen and take my opinion into consideration in a way men my own age don’t. On top of that there is always this mutual awareness that it’s not going to turn into a serious romantic relationship but with that comes a relaxed and secure attachment that is low stakes and respectful. 10/10 would recomend if you aren’t looking for a sugar baby or a serious boyfriend.
I don’t think age matters, I mean a guy your age just broke you. The right guy might be some young guy.
Men don’t have standards when they’re trying to get laid. I don’t see how that makes anything easier for women unless you want to sleep with random guys, which a lot of women don’t.
younger guys really don’t care, they’re usually the boldest ones too. you thinking of giving one a chance or just enjoying the attention for now?
oh no my lobster is too buttery and my steak is too juicy
Yes I’m 38 and younger guys wants me all the time lol. That’s pretty much all I match with anymore….
49 f personally there are far too many opportunists in that age group for me. They have it down to a T now all the bs phrases. A lot want to take advantage financially and sexually and want to move in and have a joint bank account or they will ghost
How many of these 350 look for a long term commited relationship with you, do you think ?
If you had to guess
Yo, that’s tough, but good on you for cutting him off fast. Honestly, it’s wild how many younger guys are hitting you up it’s like they don’t even care about age. If you’re not rushing anything and waiting for that real connection, you’re already ahead. Keep doing you and don’t settle for anything less than special. You got this.
Honey none of them will be “special” and they all don’t care about your age because they all just want an easy lay. 🤦♀️
Go get yours if you’re just after some sex (doubt most of it will be any good though 😂)
Sending you support
Because younger guys keep telling each other to go for older women because they’re desperate and easy.
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Ahaha yeah, it can feel pretty flattering when you get a lot of messages from younger guys! 😆
I tend to take the number of likes with a large grain of salt. Still nice to get likes though! 👍
Gurl the younger boys are jealous of the sugar babies and they are becoming those 😂 but girls tend to make it more clear theyre in it for the money, and all I hear about men doing it, is they scam older women
Just because those guys want to fuck you doesn’t mean they want to date you.
And even if you did wind up in a relationship with a significantly younger man, how do you know there wouldn’t be blowback?
I’m 42 and have also mainly been hit up by men in their 30’s since hitting the dating market almost a year ago. My advice is to have fun but not to expect anything serious to come of it. Most men in their 30’s date women in their 40’s until someone their own age or younger comes along. Either they have MILF fantasies, mommy issues, or they think that “older” women will be more desperate and therefore more willing to tolerate bullshit that women their own age won’t.
The vast majority of them still want to get married and have babies and don’t want the pressure of having to have babies immediately. A woman in her 40’s, if still able to conceive, pretty much has to try right away and has ever dwindling rates of success.
I was humbled by a 4 month situationship with a 33 year old man who I’d had the no kids conversation with at the very beginning. He said that if he really wanted kids, he probably would have had them by now. A month after he suddenly ghosted me, he was in a relationship with a much younger girl because, lo and behold, he *did* want kids. He just didn’t want to be alone while he found the person who could give them to him.
I’m now dating a 45 year old man. Our life experience is similar, and our goals are very much aligned. His son is almost 18, and he’s never wanted more children of his own, so I don’t have to worry about that becoming an issue. This is because I’m serious about a relationship.
And I know exceptions to the rule will reply about how it worked for *them*, but the wider reality is that age gap relationships most often come down to sex so don’t let it go to your head too much. You’ll be kissing a lot of frogs.
Love this for you
I’m 40 and since I’ve been single I’m amazed how many younger guys are happy to date someone my age.
It is fairly shallow though- most of them are only looking for something casual and not a proper relationship.
Love this for women.
Late 20s/early 30s is grown af and i don’t think age gaps matter anymore. I’m 33 and if I wanna see someone in their 40s that’s my business. The most i gotta worry about is if they’ve dated my mom b4 (she’s in her 50s and its happened where we were talking to the same guy on an app. He has a type cz we look alike 😂).
Insightful post.
Yes, that goes for MEN too!!! Regardless of gender
Lol These boys looking for a second mom and you took the bait. Also the likes are a synthetic way the apps keep you engaged, but it’s not real. Be careful out there and happy cruising.
I’m 36M, and my girlfriend is 45F. There was some initial awkwardness around the age gap when we first realized that she’s older than I thought and I’m younger than she thought (especially since she’s never dated a younger man before), but it has otherwise been a very healthy and loving relationship.
When I was 39 I had a boyfriend living with me that was 19. We lasted 6 years. We’re actually still friends but eventually the relationship phased out. Still a good run but when the party’s over it’s time go…. I’ve always dated men younger than myself but that was the largest age difference…