What we need to repair the hellscape that is dating is the opportunity to 'deal with' somebody, 'go through' something with somebody but that doesn't exist anymore because we've given up on any sort of real-world social order. We are in an awful, brave new world to nobody's benefit, all governed by the wicked, suspicious governing value of free choice and the annihilation of ritual, the choice to swipe through everyone in your local area rather than naturally encounter love. Love! Now no one expects anything. We literally live in hell, we live in a social order based on reigning in hell, living in hell