I (F28) dated this guy (M27) for almost four years. In the beginning, he was deeply in love with me and over time, I fell for him too. However, about a year ago, I started noticing a change in his behavior he had become distant and cold. Out of suspicion, I messaged him from a fake account and to my disappointment he responded with a lot of interest. After our breakup, I also found out that he had been talking to other girls behind my back.
I ended things with him after he replied to the fake account. But after the breakup, I came to know how hurt he actually was. A year later, he reached out, saying he wanted to make things right. He promised to change, said he’d delete all his social media and even offered to let me check his phone anytime something he never allowed before. He used to be very secretive but now he seems more open and transparent. It’s been seven months since we got back together and I can see genuine effort from his side.
TL;DR: Dated a guy for 4 years. He became distant, so I tested him using a fake account he responded flirtatiously. Broke up, later found out he was talking to other girls too. A year later, he came back promising change deleted socials, became transparent. We’ve been back together for 7 months but I still fear he might cheat again.