I’m a 27M who got out of a pretty toxic relationship with my ex 33F 2 months ago or so. Truthfully I was glad to be out of it, but I decided to give the idea of dating a go again. Dating feels like it’s changed as a whole and I can’t explain why. I mean everyone says that every day but something feels different just over the past couple years.
Over the past 3-4 months my life did a 180. Got a much higher paying job, got my own place in a big city and now dating feels superficial. The women who are now attracted to me are those girls that honestly are after your money. They hear where I live or what I do for work and their attention peaks. It’s also 90% party girls and I’m not a fan of that at all. Fuck I barely drink.
With that being said I would love to find a girl that’s quiet lowkey, has her own little small hobbies or what I’m into such as gaming (as run of the mill that is)Just something that’s not blacking out on a Friday night. Unfortunately seems like women, with what I’m looking for is incredibly far and few, and it kinda sucks not gonna lie.
I’ve dabbled on Bumble since I figured it’s not as hookup oriented as Tinder, not much luck there. I’m pretty good with women in public in person, but nobody seems to peak my interest. Can’t tell if I’m just too picky or if genuinely my type is as I said far and few. Or maybe I’m just not in the right places I don’t know 🤷🏼♂️.
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2 months after a breakup is too early to get back into the game in my honest opinion That could vary between people but I’m pretty sure you’d be better off single for a while anyways. 22M here and the dating scene is not great at all. Struggling to find a lowkey girl not every guy in town is friends with, but I guess we just have to wait and play the long game
Sometimes when we look hard for things, we won’t find them. But when we don’t, they appear out of nowhere. That’s how I feel about finding a boyfriend (also taxi. Happens all the time). So, if I may say, don’t stresses out about it too much. Something good will come up.
“After being single for a bit” – 2 months? Just stop and breathe. 2 months solo after a “toxic relationship” is not really fair on the next few women you decide to date. Take some time to be on your own. Dating is hard work. Solo can take some adjusting so think about 6-12 months no apps.
It’s been two months since your breakup that’s super fresh. I’d take some more time off and focus on other things.
Anyone being polite will probably act interested in your work and the area you live. But if sharing that information is causing you to wonder, then stay vague? There are plenty of details about your work and home that you don’t have to disclose early in dating. And if you’re getting 90% party girls, that might have more to do with the people you swipe on than the general female population on apps. Might be worth limiting your swipes to people with more thoughtful bios.
Also, I think the word you’re looking for is “pique” and not “peak.”