What’s one thing you stopped doing because it no longer brought you peace?
July 22, 2025
What’s one thing you stopped doing because it no longer brought you peace?
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Being in a relationship.
Tiktok/instagram
Dating. I’m surprised how many grown adults act like children.
Edit: also hanging out with people, I guess I got tired of the gossiping and backhanded stuff.
Living with my parents
Drinking alcohol – just didn’t do anything for me and prefer to focus on my health instead. Eating healthy can be pricey but I justify it because I don’t spend any money on alcohol.
People pleasing
I stopped chasing people in my life.
Trying to “fit” into women’s fashion. I’m sporty and do not have an hour glass figure. I’ve got muscular thighs, a strong core, and broad shoulders. I used to fast and contort myself to make dresses, slacks, and tight sexy clothes fit me.
Now I enjoy muscle shirts and loose shorts over tights most of the time. My dress attire are “nice” tights and a loose men’s button up.
Going to the beach.. wild, I know. But I live on the coast and it just doesn’t do it for me anymore unfortunately
Chasing men
Speaking to my parents.
Shaving my legs. It’s very relaxing to have shaved legs. It is very stressful maintaining shaved legs. They were prickly for a while, but they’re just as soft now, even softer maybe, than when i was shaving them.
Living abroad
Drinking, for the most part. I may partake in 1 or 2 during a social occasion, but don’t really go beyond that. Getting drunk is just not fun anymore like it was when I was young…and hangovers are absolute hell at 42 years old as well.
Having a relationship with my dad.
Shoving snacks down my gullet and generally being unhealthy.
Being friends with the parents of my children’s friends.
Just because our children are friends or play sports together, doesn’t mean we have to be friends!
Stopped trying to talk to my father in law. After years of everyone telling me my FIL is just a simple gentle soul when actually he’s a passive aggressive fuck I met his passive aggression with, as the saying goes, massive aggression and now he’s punishing me by not talking to me. Oh no my life is now peaceful and not full of snark. whatever will I do.
Dating apps.
Men
Being in a relationship with my ex.
Engaging with my family (mum step dad and step sister) life has been much more peaceful ☺️
Keeping company of people I’m not at ease with. I have social anxiety so my friend circle is significantly smaller but I feel so much better prioritizing relationships that feel safe and geniune.
Social media in large part; church; religion; the hobby of curating a wardrobe for the most part.
Smoking and wearing makeup
Watching Bravo. I got super grossed out by the audience and did not want to be associated with them anymore. Also had no interest in helping the people Bravo platforms make money/shill garbage products or exploit their children
Dating apps
Answering my phone for all non work related phone calls.
I hate being on the phone. It triggers me. I received news of loved ones dying over the phone. So now I screen my calls and dont answer unless I receive a text first or schedule a phone conversation with someone.
Taking men seriously.
True crime podcasts/documentaries. I used to love them, but I can’t handle them anymore.
Keeping up with people (old friends) just because we were close at some point in time
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Being in a relationship.
Tiktok/instagram
Dating. I’m surprised how many grown adults act like children.
Edit: also hanging out with people, I guess I got tired of the gossiping and backhanded stuff.
Living with my parents
Drinking alcohol – just didn’t do anything for me and prefer to focus on my health instead. Eating healthy can be pricey but I justify it because I don’t spend any money on alcohol.
People pleasing
I stopped chasing people in my life.
Trying to “fit” into women’s fashion. I’m sporty and do not have an hour glass figure. I’ve got muscular thighs, a strong core, and broad shoulders. I used to fast and contort myself to make dresses, slacks, and tight sexy clothes fit me.
Now I enjoy muscle shirts and loose shorts over tights most of the time. My dress attire are “nice” tights and a loose men’s button up.
Going to the beach.. wild, I know. But I live on the coast and it just doesn’t do it for me anymore unfortunately
Chasing men
Speaking to my parents.
Shaving my legs. It’s very relaxing to have shaved legs. It is very stressful maintaining shaved legs. They were prickly for a while, but they’re just as soft now, even softer maybe, than when i was shaving them.
Living abroad
Drinking, for the most part. I may partake in 1 or 2 during a social occasion, but don’t really go beyond that. Getting drunk is just not fun anymore like it was when I was young…and hangovers are absolute hell at 42 years old as well.
Having a relationship with my dad.
Shoving snacks down my gullet and generally being unhealthy.
Being friends with the parents of my children’s friends.
Just because our children are friends or play sports together, doesn’t mean we have to be friends!
Stopped trying to talk to my father in law. After years of everyone telling me my FIL is just a simple gentle soul when actually he’s a passive aggressive fuck I met his passive aggression with, as the saying goes, massive aggression and now he’s punishing me by not talking to me. Oh no my life is now peaceful and not full of snark. whatever will I do.
Dating apps.
Men
Being in a relationship with my ex.
Engaging with my family (mum step dad and step sister) life has been much more peaceful ☺️
Keeping company of people I’m not at ease with. I have social anxiety so my friend circle is significantly smaller but I feel so much better prioritizing relationships that feel safe and geniune.
Social media in large part; church; religion; the hobby of curating a wardrobe for the most part.
Smoking and wearing makeup
Watching Bravo. I got super grossed out by the audience and did not want to be associated with them anymore. Also had no interest in helping the people Bravo platforms make money/shill garbage products or exploit their children
Dating apps
Answering my phone for all non work related phone calls.
I hate being on the phone. It triggers me. I received news of loved ones dying over the phone. So now I screen my calls and dont answer unless I receive a text first or schedule a phone conversation with someone.
Taking men seriously.
True crime podcasts/documentaries. I used to love them, but I can’t handle them anymore.
Keeping up with people (old friends) just because we were close at some point in time