I left them all. Because I realised – I DESERVE BETTER.
When I realized I was writing them a manual on how to love me and respect me and they still didn’t even bother to read it. 💀
When I found out my fiance was trying to pursue my maid of honor.
She hated him and shut it down, but in that moment, I was done with him.
The Drs told him I wouldn’t make it through the night. So he went and got high with his mates instead of staying with me.
Talking to my friends alone with my legs shaking, a wounded knee, and his cum dripping down my thighs because fucking in the parking lot was ok, but getting out of the car to meet them was too much
When she stole money from me like I wouldn’t care or notice.
My extended family
When i had to teach that boy how to be a man…
When I sat there for months saying ‘I deserve better FROM you’ and yet he just took every feelings of mine for granted and before breaking up, I asked him if he is scared of hurting me or losing me
When he said losing me, I realised that he didn’t really care if he hurt me, as long as I stay despite the hurt, that is all that matters to him
Walking away from a toxic 15+ yr friendship. That chick sucked lol
After spending my entire weekend helping my sister move she couldn’t even be bothered to show up to my birthday dinner because she was too tired.
Many years ago, I was at the drive thru with an ex after he’d had a particularly challenging day at work. We were having an argument, and he raised his voice at me. Like, he yelled at the top of his lungs. I was frightened, but comforted myself by telling myself, “well, at least he’s not hitting me.” When I thought about that statement later that evening, I realized the bar was in hell – because my dad had abused me growing up, that had become my low standard for dating: I had been unconsciously thinking that, “as long as he doesn’t hit me he’s cool” 🙄 a day later I ended the relationship.
Later this week I’ll be celebrating my 2 year anniversary with the love of my life, who treats me(and my mom) like royalty 🥰
The moment I found out he had another girlfriend of 6 years. As a real kick me while I’m down, I was 2 years into my stage IV breast cancer journey at the time.
thought of the future for a split second.
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when I stood there holding our five month old and I could see he was ready to hit me 😪
When we first filed for divorce, he dated this girl, and did things like taking days off work for her, spending insane amounts on her, etc etc.
He came back to me and asked to reconcile. I agreed. I told him I needed him to do all the things he did for her, that he never did for me. (He wouldn’t take the day off before our wedding). He agreed he’d do that. He then didn’t take Mother’s Day off to celebrate me being the mother of his child. I was done in that moment but waited two weeks for an apology, clinging to some hope. It never came, despite me communicating that it hurt me. I’ll never look back.
The day I realized I was doing all the emotional labor in my relationship. I was planning dates remembering anniversaries checking in on his feelings meanwhile he couldn’t even remember what I did for work.
When he turned to me on one of our date evenings and said, completely unprovoked, “you have so much potential…” and I said “potential for what?” and he said “…to be a better person”
When he didn’t respect my boundaries
When he got mad that I wouldnt convert to his religion
When she threatened to assault me. I realized that I was in an abusive relationship and I needed to leave before she hurt me.
When I was at a friend’s wedding and realised that I didn’t see myself walking down the aisle with him. Broke up with him the same night after the wedding. 5 years later I got married with the love of my life 🙂
When I realized I loathed coming home to the house I was paying 70% of.
When you realise nothing is worth being yelled at.
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My ex!
My last job!
My friend circle!
I left them all. Because I realised – I DESERVE BETTER.
When I realized I was writing them a manual on how to love me and respect me and they still didn’t even bother to read it. 💀
When I found out my fiance was trying to pursue my maid of honor.
She hated him and shut it down, but in that moment, I was done with him.
The Drs told him I wouldn’t make it through the night. So he went and got high with his mates instead of staying with me.
Talking to my friends alone with my legs shaking, a wounded knee, and his cum dripping down my thighs because fucking in the parking lot was ok, but getting out of the car to meet them was too much
When she stole money from me like I wouldn’t care or notice.
My extended family
When i had to teach that boy how to be a man…
When I sat there for months saying ‘I deserve better FROM you’ and yet he just took every feelings of mine for granted and before breaking up, I asked him if he is scared of hurting me or losing me
When he said losing me, I realised that he didn’t really care if he hurt me, as long as I stay despite the hurt, that is all that matters to him
Walking away from a toxic 15+ yr friendship. That chick sucked lol
After spending my entire weekend helping my sister move she couldn’t even be bothered to show up to my birthday dinner because she was too tired.
Many years ago, I was at the drive thru with an ex after he’d had a particularly challenging day at work. We were having an argument, and he raised his voice at me. Like, he yelled at the top of his lungs. I was frightened, but comforted myself by telling myself, “well, at least he’s not hitting me.” When I thought about that statement later that evening, I realized the bar was in hell – because my dad had abused me growing up, that had become my low standard for dating: I had been unconsciously thinking that, “as long as he doesn’t hit me he’s cool” 🙄 a day later I ended the relationship.
Later this week I’ll be celebrating my 2 year anniversary with the love of my life, who treats me(and my mom) like royalty 🥰
The moment I found out he had another girlfriend of 6 years. As a real kick me while I’m down, I was 2 years into my stage IV breast cancer journey at the time.
thought of the future for a split second.
[removed]
when I stood there holding our five month old and I could see he was ready to hit me 😪
When we first filed for divorce, he dated this girl, and did things like taking days off work for her, spending insane amounts on her, etc etc.
He came back to me and asked to reconcile. I agreed. I told him I needed him to do all the things he did for her, that he never did for me. (He wouldn’t take the day off before our wedding). He agreed he’d do that. He then didn’t take Mother’s Day off to celebrate me being the mother of his child. I was done in that moment but waited two weeks for an apology, clinging to some hope. It never came, despite me communicating that it hurt me. I’ll never look back.
The day I realized I was doing all the emotional labor in my relationship. I was planning dates remembering anniversaries checking in on his feelings meanwhile he couldn’t even remember what I did for work.
When he turned to me on one of our date evenings and said, completely unprovoked, “you have so much potential…” and I said “potential for what?” and he said “…to be a better person”
When he didn’t respect my boundaries
When he got mad that I wouldnt convert to his religion
When she threatened to assault me. I realized that I was in an abusive relationship and I needed to leave before she hurt me.
When I was at a friend’s wedding and realised that I didn’t see myself walking down the aisle with him. Broke up with him the same night after the wedding. 5 years later I got married with the love of my life 🙂
When I realized I loathed coming home to the house I was paying 70% of.
When you realise nothing is worth being yelled at.