When I’m talking and ppl switch subjects mid sentence
Making a joke or comment and no one responds and then a guy makes the same one and it’s the second fuckin’ coming
Gaining weight. Granted, I don’t carry weight well at all and I can be honest about that, the treatment from going from attractive to unattractive is really confounding and occurs with women and men, but most noticeable with men, of course. And, I never actually cared for the attention anyway, but it’s the blatant mistreatment. It’s sad.
When I say something in a calm and nice manner, but people don’t take me seriously. It’s only after I say it again sharply with a bite to my tone that people realize I am serious.
Any health issue that’s just bad enough to impact your life but not bad enough for doctors to take seriously.
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At work. When they let men talk whatever 💩 they want, but when a woman speaks up they cut out or try to gaslight her opinion. Also when they expect us women to get snacks, prepare the room or take notes… Lol
Honestly, moving to a new country as an adult. New people always ask me where I am from and from the moment I answer it‘s as if it‘s my whole personality in their eyes. They lose interest and mostly have to inclination to talk to me about daily life like normal people. It‘s like they assign a label to me and leave me to it. It‘s very hard to leave this place where people treat you just as person „not from here“. It‘s like the Ken‘s job was beach, and my whole identity is being not born and raised in a country I live in.
When I speak and people talk over me like I wasn’t even there. Makes me feel invisible.
When we talk to people about our past trauma like assault, rape, abuse…usually people dont believe me.
But if they hear from someone else about my experience, they will believe me
Aging! When I was younger – 18 through 40- I had men seeing/pursuing me ALL the time. Now that I am over 50, I don’t exist. I have aged naturally yet still take care of myself. On the other hand – men get noticed more as they get older. They are silver foxes and zaddy’s! Oh the double standard.
Mind you, I am married and haven’t been in the market for a long time, but that never stopped men noticing me before “I aged.”
When I am with my siblings. I have four brothers. One on one they seem interested in me, when we all get together I feel completely invisible and have always felt that way growing up. It hasn’t been fun.
Getting talked at my someone who has no interest in hearing what I have to say or even knowing if I want to talk to them.
Being used as someone to point words at feels dehumanising.
My work is having and has had a lot of issues. But we recently restructured and it was blatantly obvious that multiple qualified women were demoted. The two women who maintained their positions had connections higher up.
When males talk over me in a conversation like I don’t exist.
My mom and sister have severe ADHD, only diagnosed in the last few years (sister is in her late 40s).
My whole life, seeing them lose their attention within a few seconds and interrupt me all the time has made me feel like what I had to say didn’t matter. I’m a very fast speaker because I knew I only had a few seconds of their attention.
People talk a lot about ADHD nowadays, but not enough is said about the people who live with adhd’ers. It’s hard for us too.
Becoming middle-aged.
But that is not a complaint. I have thoroughly enjoyed the invisibility that middle age has brought.
Being short sighted has always been problematic as can’t perceive ‘male gaze’ ‘looking at me’
Existing around 95% of men. I am not perceived as human with a thought process but a (potential) hole. The more I grow up and mature, the more my eyes open to this dynamic and I feel repelled and disgusted by nearly all personal interactions with men.
wearing super baggy clothes (which is why I do it)
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When Im out with my bf (who is qutie a mannly looking man, facial hair and all) and we talk with waiters, male receptionists or such, they always only talk with and look at him, barely look at me.
Granted over the years I have perfect the fact of blending into the surroundings but by now this phenomen has happened so often its kinda hard to think they choose not to notice me or worse, look at me, bc Im not a guy. Idk, its weird.
Watching movies and for no good reason, they are in a strip club. So we are watching strippers while the show goes on. Or a sex scene with the women shown nude, rarely even a glimpse of a male butt. Or – for no reason, multiple women taking a shower, skinny dipping or undressing – again with zero male nudity. I’m sitting in the audience or on the couch with my partner watching hyper-sexualized, gratuitous female only nudity. Or watching television, same thing. Concerts with women hyper-sexualized, barely dressed, grinding and twerking. Like, do they even take into consideration the women having to sit thru this ? No. Apparently, we are unseen.
When men who never have and never will experience women-only events like pregnancy, menstruation, and menopause trying to decide what’s “best” for us.
Like how can you decide on our behalf what options we have for reproductive care?
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When I’m talking and ppl switch subjects mid sentence
Making a joke or comment and no one responds and then a guy makes the same one and it’s the second fuckin’ coming
Gaining weight. Granted, I don’t carry weight well at all and I can be honest about that, the treatment from going from attractive to unattractive is really confounding and occurs with women and men, but most noticeable with men, of course. And, I never actually cared for the attention anyway, but it’s the blatant mistreatment. It’s sad.
When I say something in a calm and nice manner, but people don’t take me seriously. It’s only after I say it again sharply with a bite to my tone that people realize I am serious.
Any health issue that’s just bad enough to impact your life but not bad enough for doctors to take seriously.
[removed]
At work. When they let men talk whatever 💩 they want, but when a woman speaks up they cut out or try to gaslight her opinion. Also when they expect us women to get snacks, prepare the room or take notes… Lol
Honestly, moving to a new country as an adult. New people always ask me where I am from and from the moment I answer it‘s as if it‘s my whole personality in their eyes. They lose interest and mostly have to inclination to talk to me about daily life like normal people. It‘s like they assign a label to me and leave me to it. It‘s very hard to leave this place where people treat you just as person „not from here“. It‘s like the Ken‘s job was beach, and my whole identity is being not born and raised in a country I live in.
When I speak and people talk over me like I wasn’t even there. Makes me feel invisible.
When we talk to people about our past trauma like assault, rape, abuse…usually people dont believe me.
But if they hear from someone else about my experience, they will believe me
Aging! When I was younger – 18 through 40- I had men seeing/pursuing me ALL the time. Now that I am over 50, I don’t exist. I have aged naturally yet still take care of myself. On the other hand – men get noticed more as they get older. They are silver foxes and zaddy’s! Oh the double standard.
Mind you, I am married and haven’t been in the market for a long time, but that never stopped men noticing me before “I aged.”
When I am with my siblings. I have four brothers. One on one they seem interested in me, when we all get together I feel completely invisible and have always felt that way growing up. It hasn’t been fun.
Getting talked at my someone who has no interest in hearing what I have to say or even knowing if I want to talk to them.
Being used as someone to point words at feels dehumanising.
My work is having and has had a lot of issues. But we recently restructured and it was blatantly obvious that multiple qualified women were demoted. The two women who maintained their positions had connections higher up.
When males talk over me in a conversation like I don’t exist.
My mom and sister have severe ADHD, only diagnosed in the last few years (sister is in her late 40s).
My whole life, seeing them lose their attention within a few seconds and interrupt me all the time has made me feel like what I had to say didn’t matter. I’m a very fast speaker because I knew I only had a few seconds of their attention.
People talk a lot about ADHD nowadays, but not enough is said about the people who live with adhd’ers. It’s hard for us too.
Becoming middle-aged.
But that is not a complaint. I have thoroughly enjoyed the invisibility that middle age has brought.
Being short sighted has always been problematic as can’t perceive ‘male gaze’ ‘looking at me’
Existing around 95% of men. I am not perceived as human with a thought process but a (potential) hole. The more I grow up and mature, the more my eyes open to this dynamic and I feel repelled and disgusted by nearly all personal interactions with men.
wearing super baggy clothes (which is why I do it)
[removed]
[removed]
When Im out with my bf (who is qutie a mannly looking man, facial hair and all) and we talk with waiters, male receptionists or such, they always only talk with and look at him, barely look at me.
Granted over the years I have perfect the fact of blending into the surroundings but by now this phenomen has happened so often its kinda hard to think they choose not to notice me or worse, look at me, bc Im not a guy. Idk, its weird.
Watching movies and for no good reason, they are in a strip club. So we are watching strippers while the show goes on. Or a sex scene with the women shown nude, rarely even a glimpse of a male butt. Or – for no reason, multiple women taking a shower, skinny dipping or undressing – again with zero male nudity. I’m sitting in the audience or on the couch with my partner watching hyper-sexualized, gratuitous female only nudity. Or watching television, same thing. Concerts with women hyper-sexualized, barely dressed, grinding and twerking. Like, do they even take into consideration the women having to sit thru this ? No. Apparently, we are unseen.
When men who never have and never will experience women-only events like pregnancy, menstruation, and menopause trying to decide what’s “best” for us.
Like how can you decide on our behalf what options we have for reproductive care?