Women who took a spontaneous trip alone — what made you decide, and what did you learn?
July 17, 2025
Women who took a spontaneous solo trip: what made you decide to go, and what did you discover about yourself or life?
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I was bored, so I booked a trip on short notice and during the trip I discovered that I actually enjoy travelling solo more than travelling with others.
I’m going on a solo trip next week so I’ll come back and tell you if I remember.
I travelled alone in Asia and I love it there
My friends all bailed on our girls’ trip last minute so I said screw it and went to Barcelona anyway. Wandered around museums ate tapas at random places got lost in the Gothic Quarter.
I’m travelling alone now and I love it. It teaches you reliance on your wit, how to enjoy your own company and that you can make any decision and you get to own it.
Went to London, England by myself. I just needed to get away from my crazy life and it wasn’t too expensive at the time. I was an idiot and tried to speak in a british accent to people to “blend in” and all of them caught onto me lol! Met some great people. Only went for 1 week
Idk if it counts as a spontaneous trip, but I was chatting with a guy online and it’s been going good (we’ve verified we are indeed who we say we are). He wanted to be in a relationship, but I said I’d prefer to meet up first before deciding that (due to past mistakes lol.)
So I did exactly just that the next time our schedules were aligned. It was like 10 days. I learned I wasn’t asexual after all, I was, in fact, demisexual.
Anyway, it was the best decision of my life and he moved in a couple months ago.
It was the time when I was at my lowest.
It’s been 4 years to that day now.
I was struggling with depression and anxiety. But I read somewhere that solo trips makes you feel more better, more confident about yourself.
So I decided to do that.
I went on a solo trip . It wasn’t very far just 300 km away from my city.
Lived there for like a month.
And I felt so much better about a lot of things in life after that.
Broke up with my boyfriend, felt like I needed to clear my head. Took a last-minute bus to a nearby town. Learned that I enjoy my own company more than I expected and I don’t always need to plan to have a good time.
I had some time in between an internship and starting the new semester. So I spontaneously bought a flight to Croatia and made my way back to Germany from there in 10 days via train, boat and hitchhiking. I learned that there are nice strangers to talk to everywhere. And that I was too afraid to hitchhike 😂
A Croatian trucker took me for a ride, he must have noticed how nervous I was even though we couldn’t communicate, he offered me cigarettes (I don’t usually smoke). So we just sat and smoked in silence while the Croatian landscape flew by. It turned out fine. Still I personally wouldn’t recommend it as a woman travelling solo.
Went on an unexpected solo trip to Cuba a few years back. It was my first solo trip, just out of university. I was supposed to go with a friend, but she pulled out at the last minute. I decided to challenge myself and go alone. I come from quite a strict, traditional background (2nd gen immigrant, from a religious and sexually quite repressed culture). I had an amazing experience in Cuba – it really helped me be more independent and move away from the strict upbringing. And yeah – I went to Cuba as a very uptight virgin with no experience of sex. I came back having, ahem, waylaid my sexual inexperience on the way 🤭 (well, technially I could still call myself a virgin under my community’s stupid rules).
I almost always travel alone and I almost always travel spontaneously because long-term planning doesn’t really work with my health. Idk if I learned anything from it, but it is a lot of fun. Would recommend.
It was a last minute solo trip to the South of France. I had an anxiety attack the first day I was there but after a phone call with my then boyfriend, I calmed down and sat in the common room area of the hostel and made conversation with a Canadian. I ended up meeting and socializing with a group of people and we did a whole bunch of fun and adventurous things together. We’re all still in touch! So much fun. I felt so free to be my true self because no one there knew me.
I have been on many solo trips of different kinds.
What it always teach me: I can enjoy my own company, I can make any decisions on my own and get out of my comfort zone.
What I really like: it’s great way to trust myself and my capacity more 🙂
Something I need to work on: use less social media (sometimes I use it as a way to compensate being alone like when eating alone or waiting etc.), being more forward to meet other people
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I travel alone fairly often, both for work and for fun. My biggest piece of advice is to buy a costume ring and wear it on your left ring finger. Men tend to leave you alone when they see it.
I decided to go on a spontaneous solo trip because I needed space to reset and reflect. It taught me how strong and independent I really am, and that stepping out of my comfort zone is where growth happens.
I decided to take a trip from Florida to Michigan after my mom passed away when I was 21 and it was the best decision I could have possibly made for myself
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I was bored, so I booked a trip on short notice and during the trip I discovered that I actually enjoy travelling solo more than travelling with others.
I’m going on a solo trip next week so I’ll come back and tell you if I remember.
I travelled alone in Asia and I love it there
My friends all bailed on our girls’ trip last minute so I said screw it and went to Barcelona anyway. Wandered around museums ate tapas at random places got lost in the Gothic Quarter.
I’m travelling alone now and I love it. It teaches you reliance on your wit, how to enjoy your own company and that you can make any decision and you get to own it.
Went to London, England by myself. I just needed to get away from my crazy life and it wasn’t too expensive at the time. I was an idiot and tried to speak in a british accent to people to “blend in” and all of them caught onto me lol! Met some great people. Only went for 1 week
Idk if it counts as a spontaneous trip, but I was chatting with a guy online and it’s been going good (we’ve verified we are indeed who we say we are). He wanted to be in a relationship, but I said I’d prefer to meet up first before deciding that (due to past mistakes lol.)
So I did exactly just that the next time our schedules were aligned. It was like 10 days. I learned I wasn’t asexual after all, I was, in fact, demisexual.
Anyway, it was the best decision of my life and he moved in a couple months ago.
It was the time when I was at my lowest.
It’s been 4 years to that day now.
I was struggling with depression and anxiety. But I read somewhere that solo trips makes you feel more better, more confident about yourself.
So I decided to do that.
I went on a solo trip . It wasn’t very far just 300 km away from my city.
Lived there for like a month.
And I felt so much better about a lot of things in life after that.
Broke up with my boyfriend, felt like I needed to clear my head. Took a last-minute bus to a nearby town. Learned that I enjoy my own company more than I expected and I don’t always need to plan to have a good time.
I had some time in between an internship and starting the new semester. So I spontaneously bought a flight to Croatia and made my way back to Germany from there in 10 days via train, boat and hitchhiking. I learned that there are nice strangers to talk to everywhere. And that I was too afraid to hitchhike 😂
A Croatian trucker took me for a ride, he must have noticed how nervous I was even though we couldn’t communicate, he offered me cigarettes (I don’t usually smoke). So we just sat and smoked in silence while the Croatian landscape flew by. It turned out fine. Still I personally wouldn’t recommend it as a woman travelling solo.
Went on an unexpected solo trip to Cuba a few years back. It was my first solo trip, just out of university. I was supposed to go with a friend, but she pulled out at the last minute. I decided to challenge myself and go alone. I come from quite a strict, traditional background (2nd gen immigrant, from a religious and sexually quite repressed culture). I had an amazing experience in Cuba – it really helped me be more independent and move away from the strict upbringing. And yeah – I went to Cuba as a very uptight virgin with no experience of sex. I came back having, ahem, waylaid my sexual inexperience on the way 🤭 (well, technially I could still call myself a virgin under my community’s stupid rules).
I almost always travel alone and I almost always travel spontaneously because long-term planning doesn’t really work with my health. Idk if I learned anything from it, but it is a lot of fun. Would recommend.
It was a last minute solo trip to the South of France. I had an anxiety attack the first day I was there but after a phone call with my then boyfriend, I calmed down and sat in the common room area of the hostel and made conversation with a Canadian. I ended up meeting and socializing with a group of people and we did a whole bunch of fun and adventurous things together. We’re all still in touch! So much fun. I felt so free to be my true self because no one there knew me.
I have been on many solo trips of different kinds.
What it always teach me: I can enjoy my own company, I can make any decisions on my own and get out of my comfort zone.
What I really like: it’s great way to trust myself and my capacity more 🙂
Something I need to work on: use less social media (sometimes I use it as a way to compensate being alone like when eating alone or waiting etc.), being more forward to meet other people
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I travel alone fairly often, both for work and for fun. My biggest piece of advice is to buy a costume ring and wear it on your left ring finger. Men tend to leave you alone when they see it.
I decided to go on a spontaneous solo trip because I needed space to reset and reflect. It taught me how strong and independent I really am, and that stepping out of my comfort zone is where growth happens.
I decided to take a trip from Florida to Michigan after my mom passed away when I was 21 and it was the best decision I could have possibly made for myself