What’s one “good girl” rule you totally dumped, and how did life get better (or way messier) after you did?
July 9, 2025
What’s one “good girl” rule you totally dumped, and how did life get better (or way messier) after you did?
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Shaving. Such a waste of time to look like an alien
To not ‘sleep around’. I know what I like & what I don’t like, I’ve bagged some great men & I got experience.
I have good sex tbh.
Not to make a fuss when a situation deserves one to be made.
I was basically told my whole life to just take whatever was thrown at me and still continue to smile and fawn. Fuck that. I feel much more confident and have way better boundaries now. I don’t end up in situations that hurt me as often either.
Oh and also cussing. So many people (men specifically) told me it’s unsexy, off putting, whatever. But I talk like a sailor and I am who I am. I’m not here to be palatable for everyone. I feel more authentic and I noticed that a lot of people actually appreciate that side of me.
Maybe it’s a bit circular but I did the whole “write like a man” thing at work for awhile (fewer exclamation points, niceties, etc). Then one day I was like ykw screw that, it’s just another iteration of me letting people dictate how I communicate, I’m going to do what I want to. And I want to write like that! So I did, and it actually improved my work relationships (both internal and external).
But tbh most of the “good girl” rules I’ve always ignored (body count, smiling constantly, being excessively accommodating etc) and I’ve seen zero detriment to my life as a result of that.
I ditched “always say yes” and suddenly I had my own back – learned “no” can feel like a superpower, even if it’s messy at first.
5 comments
Shaving. Such a waste of time to look like an alien
To not ‘sleep around’. I know what I like & what I don’t like, I’ve bagged some great men & I got experience.
I have good sex tbh.
Not to make a fuss when a situation deserves one to be made.
I was basically told my whole life to just take whatever was thrown at me and still continue to smile and fawn. Fuck that. I feel much more confident and have way better boundaries now. I don’t end up in situations that hurt me as often either.
Oh and also cussing. So many people (men specifically) told me it’s unsexy, off putting, whatever. But I talk like a sailor and I am who I am. I’m not here to be palatable for everyone. I feel more authentic and I noticed that a lot of people actually appreciate that side of me.
Maybe it’s a bit circular but I did the whole “write like a man” thing at work for awhile (fewer exclamation points, niceties, etc). Then one day I was like ykw screw that, it’s just another iteration of me letting people dictate how I communicate, I’m going to do what I want to. And I want to write like that! So I did, and it actually improved my work relationships (both internal and external).
But tbh most of the “good girl” rules I’ve always ignored (body count, smiling constantly, being excessively accommodating etc) and I’ve seen zero detriment to my life as a result of that.
I ditched “always say yes” and suddenly I had my own back – learned “no” can feel like a superpower, even if it’s messy at first.