How did you find out your friend was a piece of shit ?
June 30, 2025
How did you find out your friend was a piece of shit ?
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Michael Jackson made a song about this…”man in the mirror”
I have a lot of those. I’m a lesbian that grew up surrounded by very conservative christians and most of my friends were from church. Turns out coming out is a pretty quick way of finding out which friends are pieces of shit and which ones are worth having.
He used me as a public scapegoat for HIS wrongdoings
She was abusive to her boyfriend behind closed doors. Then it came out she was also abusive to her ex-husband. Both men had police reports.
Her dad got sick. I flew 1100 miles to stay with her mom (also very sick) as she took her dad to Shands.
I also went back and helped her move her parents from country to the city.
I rushed there when her mom died, on my friends (her daughters) bday.
My mom died. My mom was where my friend was -back in my home state, she couldn’t bother to text, call or show up. But she did send me a letter listing all the bad things my mom did. She wasn’t wrong but why???? Shes gone, I forgave her long ago. Isn’t her job to hold a grudge against my mom and If she has one, tell my mom while she’s alive or just STFU.
My mom did not like her but was always nice to her. Said she was snobby.
Mom was right. So a 30 year friendship ended.
Hope she’s ok. Her mom bailed her and her husband out all the time. Her mom told me all this during the 8 days I stayed with her, her daughter never mentioned a word. She got a good sum when her parents died and a free house (they bought a new one, she never paid them rent, hence, a totally free house ).
I wonder how long it took her husband to gamble it all away.
Once I got that letter, blocked her, and could not give 2 shits about her.
My mom died and I was due to visit in 2 days. But yes let’s write a letter bringing up crap from when we were 13 yo. I wasn’t a perfect child, she wasn’t a perfect parent. That happens. But this friend always had this thing for perfect. She fronts like her world is perfect, even tho her dad dragged him out of gambling establishments, countless times.
The one thing that truly bugged her was that free house was on the west side. I grew up there too, it was a whole east side vs west side thing. They had way more than we did in my single parent household , no child support .
I’ve often thought about sending 1 text …..for all your “I’m better than you” crap, who lived on the east side??? Wasn’t her or her family,
But I don’t. I do better than her, each and every time, bc I had to work for it, wasn’t handed to me.
Had we met as adults, would have never been friends.
I fully family
when she attempted to home wreck. key word here is “attempt”. it didn’t work.
Exhibit 1: She decided to start a fight with random people next to us. They didn’t cower as she assumed they would, instead they clapped back harder. Honestly it was entertaining to see. She then snapped at me asking why I’m not defending her, I said “you started the fight, if you can’t take it perhaps you shouldn’t dish it”. She started to scream at me about how I’m a horrible friend and how I never defend her when everyone is being so mean and toxic to her. I told her that the only mean bully and toxic person I always see is her and abandoned her on the spot. That was the last time I spoke with her.
Exhibit 2: Aside from many other issues like not respecting boundaries at all (especially when it came to his kinks), gaslighting and overall being shitty friend, one day he decided to go on an unhinged rant out of nowhere about trans people. For a bit I tried to correct his wrong beliefs about sex vs gender but it became clear he’s not interested in understanding so I called him out on his bigotry and he said “wtf I am not a bigot, I don’t want to kill them or anything I just think they’re [INSERT DEROGATORY TERMS AND INSULTS]”. Yeah that’s a nope from me buddy, bye.
Went through a rough patch for a year or two (abusive boyfriend, low/no income, and victim of car accident + TBI), still reached out to them, I was still friendly. Most faded out from my life and never said a word. For me being someone so open and helpful, I would have at least expected, from friends of 5+ years, a “hey you’ve been doing this thing I don’t like and it’s getting in the way of our relationship” but nobody said anything, nobody helped, nobody even let me vent to them, not once.
Saw her continuously discard people for the shiny new thing. Thought it couldn’t happen to me. Tale as old as time 😂
Online friend. My 5th to 10th grade, with him being 2 years older than me. Tldr: he coerced me then sexually harassed my current BFF.
He told me during my 8th grade that he liked me. First time I ever heard that from someone. I was ecstatic. We lived across the country, were gonna stay good friends then see where we were by the time both of us were out of high school.
Things escalated, he coerced me, threatened to rape me if we ever met in person… I was 14 and thought “maybe this is love.” He was suicidal and I couldn’t imagine leaving him.
I tried to forgive him and stay friends, but he kept sending sexual messages. Grew sick of it, blocked him in 10th grade, and later learned he’d been sexually harassing my other friend (his former schoolmate).
I’m in college now, thankfully that awful guy is out of my life and his former schoolmate has been my closest friend for 7 years now.
Shallow, only interested in themselves, think highly of themselves, don’t care about you, or ask about you.
Oh. And another story: I used to be friends with a guy who ran a “child predator catfishing” YouTube channel which I won’t name. Back then I thought he was just eccentric and dark humored.
One of his videos went viral, then he got exposed shortly after for political extremism + predatory behavior toward minors. It was an interesting time to be alive.
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I was going through something and she went out of range – we were talking while she was driving – and then she simply didn’t call back. When we finally spoke I mentioned it and she said ‘Oh I was on my way to see X (her partner). I aways go into our own special world when we’re together.’ Even though our friendship preceded her relationship by 20 years and I’d given her hard earned precious money when she was going through her divorce and been there for her so many times. Ugh.
She was badmouthing me to my then BF behind my back and trying to get with him… because she was upset/jealous that the guys she liked/crushed on, liked me…
Mostly due to her own mistake not specifying it was her talking to them and not me (we have the same name spelt slightly differently)… told them they liked her thinking she was me, only for her/them to realise at some point there was a misunderstanding. This was completely unbeknownst to me. so she was just getting upset on her own over this.
During the time she also started trying to make me feel bad or guilty about myself. She’d tell me she hated taking photos with me because I’m a “poser” and made her look ugly. That my laugh was annoying, horrible and attention whore-ish. She literally took away my smile and laughter. I stopped and avoided all photos because of that too… for probably over a decade. I don’t have my natural laugh anymore. It’s stupid, but it just really made me feel bad.
And IRL. I had a lot more interaction with the guys she liked as I was sat next to them and was in class with them (she wasn’t – she liked guys pretty much 90% based on looks and 10% on whim from what I could tell), so she thought I was flirting with all these guys she liked (and I guess the guys having talked to her thinking she was me, probably thought I was too, so flirted “back” with me) which just made her angry. Stupid teen shit.
Anyhow, I find out through another friend… I call her out on it. I forgave her (because I could understand why she was hurt… although it *really* wasn’t my fault) But yeah, it was pretty shitty. Even moreso b/c she couldn’t get over it and we couldn’t remain friends. We really were very close friends… I’m sure she knew it wasn’t my fault either, but there were just some unlucky things.
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Another one was that she started being kinda passive aggressive and insult me. She’d say things like “I have bigger boobs than Lemondrop, what’s good about her?”, “I’m taller than lemondrop, why do guys like her?”, “Her A, B, C isn’t as good as mine, so I’m more attractive than lemondrop right?”, “My X, Y, Z is better than lemondrop right??” And get our other friends to agree with her (they didn’t…).
Again, I kinda understand where she was coming from (I was complimented/liked by guys incl. one she liked)… So I get it, but again, I had nothing to do with it (and in these cases I really didn’t even know/talk with these guys), so it was quite shitty she took it out on me.
He asked that if me and my bf broke up could he have his number :/
I stopped talking to him but he made a new account to follow me and my friend, I’m not sure about that dude.
She told us in a group chat that she was having an affair and that her side piece was helping her paint her kids’ room while her boyfriend (and not the father of any of the kods) was at work.
When we told her how much she aucks she was genuinely shocked we didn’t support her.
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I had a friend in high school. Let’s call them Sam. This story takes place while we were in college together.
Sam and I have different political views. Which one believes in what isn’t important to the story.
One day, we’re in a conversation with some other friends and the topic of the recent political race at the time. (It was like the week before election day.) I had done my research and knew who I was voting for and Sam sat there, naming off all the reasons why they weren’t voting for that candidate.
Now, I told Sam before that I was the opposite political party from them. This was something that came up quite a few times in the past. So they shouldn’t have been too surprised when I started giving some positive, clarifying light about that candidate.
When I did, though, Sam went on this long rant about how people with my views only want to make their life miserable. That rant continued until I had to change the subject. I never saw Sam in the same light after that.
I’m just glad I know who my real friends are today.
Her brother was aaking me about how me and my bf are and she said: it’ll be so funny when he dumps u.
She no longer is my friend. Obviously.
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She fucked my dad
I was mini-golfing with this guy and my friend trying to set them up. The guy told me my best friend had hung out with the guy I was seeing (who was friends with mini golf guy) the previous night and that they had hooked up. Oh and, said best friend had a boyfriend who then threatened that I was on his hit list after I turned down his advances. I ended my friendship with her immediately.
I have had a friend for a few years who at one point was a pretty close friend. However over the years I’ve learned she lies a lot and she has shown she gets very jealous of my relationships and successes. For months now she’s been bragging about this guy she has a bit of an online romantic/sexual thing with in another state. Apparently he’s married, his wife is dying of cancer and she brags about how when his wife dies he’s going to move down here and be with my friend (probably a lie/wishful thinking.) It’s incredibly fucked up. However, she had a childhood brain injury that impacted her a lot. She’s really not all the way there and I don’t think she ever had a chance to develop normally, mentally. She still has seizures from the brain injury and is on disability, she says for the seizures but I imagine the cognitive impairment is part of her disability. So I cut her some slack, because who knows how her brain injury affected her empathy and judgment, but she knows right from wrong and I definitely talk to her a lot less these days.
When she decided I should be over my dead boyfriend after six months.
Police called me and told this person was arrested and she had my some things that belonged to me 🙁
When my mom died she made it all about herself. Posted a long Facebook status about how MY mom’s death affected HER even though they’d never met. Then she got mad when I didn’t comfort her.
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Michael Jackson made a song about this…”man in the mirror”
I have a lot of those. I’m a lesbian that grew up surrounded by very conservative christians and most of my friends were from church. Turns out coming out is a pretty quick way of finding out which friends are pieces of shit and which ones are worth having.
He used me as a public scapegoat for HIS wrongdoings
She was abusive to her boyfriend behind closed doors. Then it came out she was also abusive to her ex-husband. Both men had police reports.
Her dad got sick. I flew 1100 miles to stay with her mom (also very sick) as she took her dad to Shands.
I also went back and helped her move her parents from country to the city.
I rushed there when her mom died, on my friends (her daughters) bday.
My mom died. My mom was where my friend was -back in my home state, she couldn’t bother to text, call or show up. But she did send me a letter listing all the bad things my mom did. She wasn’t wrong but why???? Shes gone, I forgave her long ago. Isn’t her job to hold a grudge against my mom and If she has one, tell my mom while she’s alive or just STFU.
My mom did not like her but was always nice to her. Said she was snobby.
Mom was right. So a 30 year friendship ended.
Hope she’s ok. Her mom bailed her and her husband out all the time. Her mom told me all this during the 8 days I stayed with her, her daughter never mentioned a word. She got a good sum when her parents died and a free house (they bought a new one, she never paid them rent, hence, a totally free house ).
I wonder how long it took her husband to gamble it all away.
Once I got that letter, blocked her, and could not give 2 shits about her.
My mom died and I was due to visit in 2 days. But yes let’s write a letter bringing up crap from when we were 13 yo. I wasn’t a perfect child, she wasn’t a perfect parent. That happens. But this friend always had this thing for perfect. She fronts like her world is perfect, even tho her dad dragged him out of gambling establishments, countless times.
The one thing that truly bugged her was that free house was on the west side. I grew up there too, it was a whole east side vs west side thing. They had way more than we did in my single parent household , no child support .
I’ve often thought about sending 1 text …..for all your “I’m better than you” crap, who lived on the east side??? Wasn’t her or her family,
But I don’t. I do better than her, each and every time, bc I had to work for it, wasn’t handed to me.
Had we met as adults, would have never been friends.
I fully family
when she attempted to home wreck. key word here is “attempt”. it didn’t work.
Exhibit 1: She decided to start a fight with random people next to us. They didn’t cower as she assumed they would, instead they clapped back harder. Honestly it was entertaining to see. She then snapped at me asking why I’m not defending her, I said “you started the fight, if you can’t take it perhaps you shouldn’t dish it”. She started to scream at me about how I’m a horrible friend and how I never defend her when everyone is being so mean and toxic to her. I told her that the only mean bully and toxic person I always see is her and abandoned her on the spot. That was the last time I spoke with her.
Exhibit 2: Aside from many other issues like not respecting boundaries at all (especially when it came to his kinks), gaslighting and overall being shitty friend, one day he decided to go on an unhinged rant out of nowhere about trans people. For a bit I tried to correct his wrong beliefs about sex vs gender but it became clear he’s not interested in understanding so I called him out on his bigotry and he said “wtf I am not a bigot, I don’t want to kill them or anything I just think they’re [INSERT DEROGATORY TERMS AND INSULTS]”. Yeah that’s a nope from me buddy, bye.
Went through a rough patch for a year or two (abusive boyfriend, low/no income, and victim of car accident + TBI), still reached out to them, I was still friendly. Most faded out from my life and never said a word. For me being someone so open and helpful, I would have at least expected, from friends of 5+ years, a “hey you’ve been doing this thing I don’t like and it’s getting in the way of our relationship” but nobody said anything, nobody helped, nobody even let me vent to them, not once.
Saw her continuously discard people for the shiny new thing. Thought it couldn’t happen to me. Tale as old as time 😂
Online friend. My 5th to 10th grade, with him being 2 years older than me. Tldr: he coerced me then sexually harassed my current BFF.
He told me during my 8th grade that he liked me. First time I ever heard that from someone. I was ecstatic. We lived across the country, were gonna stay good friends then see where we were by the time both of us were out of high school.
Things escalated, he coerced me, threatened to rape me if we ever met in person… I was 14 and thought “maybe this is love.” He was suicidal and I couldn’t imagine leaving him.
I tried to forgive him and stay friends, but he kept sending sexual messages. Grew sick of it, blocked him in 10th grade, and later learned he’d been sexually harassing my other friend (his former schoolmate).
I’m in college now, thankfully that awful guy is out of my life and his former schoolmate has been my closest friend for 7 years now.
Shallow, only interested in themselves, think highly of themselves, don’t care about you, or ask about you.
Oh. And another story: I used to be friends with a guy who ran a “child predator catfishing” YouTube channel which I won’t name. Back then I thought he was just eccentric and dark humored.
One of his videos went viral, then he got exposed shortly after for political extremism + predatory behavior toward minors. It was an interesting time to be alive.
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I was going through something and she went out of range – we were talking while she was driving – and then she simply didn’t call back. When we finally spoke I mentioned it and she said ‘Oh I was on my way to see X (her partner). I aways go into our own special world when we’re together.’ Even though our friendship preceded her relationship by 20 years and I’d given her hard earned precious money when she was going through her divorce and been there for her so many times. Ugh.
She was badmouthing me to my then BF behind my back and trying to get with him… because she was upset/jealous that the guys she liked/crushed on, liked me…
Mostly due to her own mistake not specifying it was her talking to them and not me (we have the same name spelt slightly differently)… told them they liked her thinking she was me, only for her/them to realise at some point there was a misunderstanding. This was completely unbeknownst to me. so she was just getting upset on her own over this.
During the time she also started trying to make me feel bad or guilty about myself. She’d tell me she hated taking photos with me because I’m a “poser” and made her look ugly. That my laugh was annoying, horrible and attention whore-ish. She literally took away my smile and laughter. I stopped and avoided all photos because of that too… for probably over a decade. I don’t have my natural laugh anymore. It’s stupid, but it just really made me feel bad.
And IRL. I had a lot more interaction with the guys she liked as I was sat next to them and was in class with them (she wasn’t – she liked guys pretty much 90% based on looks and 10% on whim from what I could tell), so she thought I was flirting with all these guys she liked (and I guess the guys having talked to her thinking she was me, probably thought I was too, so flirted “back” with me) which just made her angry. Stupid teen shit.
Anyhow, I find out through another friend… I call her out on it. I forgave her (because I could understand why she was hurt… although it *really* wasn’t my fault) But yeah, it was pretty shitty. Even moreso b/c she couldn’t get over it and we couldn’t remain friends. We really were very close friends… I’m sure she knew it wasn’t my fault either, but there were just some unlucky things.
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Another one was that she started being kinda passive aggressive and insult me. She’d say things like “I have bigger boobs than Lemondrop, what’s good about her?”, “I’m taller than lemondrop, why do guys like her?”, “Her A, B, C isn’t as good as mine, so I’m more attractive than lemondrop right?”, “My X, Y, Z is better than lemondrop right??” And get our other friends to agree with her (they didn’t…).
Again, I kinda understand where she was coming from (I was complimented/liked by guys incl. one she liked)… So I get it, but again, I had nothing to do with it (and in these cases I really didn’t even know/talk with these guys), so it was quite shitty she took it out on me.
He asked that if me and my bf broke up could he have his number :/
I stopped talking to him but he made a new account to follow me and my friend, I’m not sure about that dude.
She told us in a group chat that she was having an affair and that her side piece was helping her paint her kids’ room while her boyfriend (and not the father of any of the kods) was at work.
When we told her how much she aucks she was genuinely shocked we didn’t support her.
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I had a friend in high school. Let’s call them Sam. This story takes place while we were in college together.
Sam and I have different political views. Which one believes in what isn’t important to the story.
One day, we’re in a conversation with some other friends and the topic of the recent political race at the time. (It was like the week before election day.) I had done my research and knew who I was voting for and Sam sat there, naming off all the reasons why they weren’t voting for that candidate.
Now, I told Sam before that I was the opposite political party from them. This was something that came up quite a few times in the past. So they shouldn’t have been too surprised when I started giving some positive, clarifying light about that candidate.
When I did, though, Sam went on this long rant about how people with my views only want to make their life miserable. That rant continued until I had to change the subject. I never saw Sam in the same light after that.
I’m just glad I know who my real friends are today.
Her brother was aaking me about how me and my bf are and she said: it’ll be so funny when he dumps u.
She no longer is my friend. Obviously.
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She fucked my dad
I was mini-golfing with this guy and my friend trying to set them up. The guy told me my best friend had hung out with the guy I was seeing (who was friends with mini golf guy) the previous night and that they had hooked up. Oh and, said best friend had a boyfriend who then threatened that I was on his hit list after I turned down his advances. I ended my friendship with her immediately.
I have had a friend for a few years who at one point was a pretty close friend. However over the years I’ve learned she lies a lot and she has shown she gets very jealous of my relationships and successes. For months now she’s been bragging about this guy she has a bit of an online romantic/sexual thing with in another state. Apparently he’s married, his wife is dying of cancer and she brags about how when his wife dies he’s going to move down here and be with my friend (probably a lie/wishful thinking.) It’s incredibly fucked up. However, she had a childhood brain injury that impacted her a lot. She’s really not all the way there and I don’t think she ever had a chance to develop normally, mentally. She still has seizures from the brain injury and is on disability, she says for the seizures but I imagine the cognitive impairment is part of her disability. So I cut her some slack, because who knows how her brain injury affected her empathy and judgment, but she knows right from wrong and I definitely talk to her a lot less these days.
When she decided I should be over my dead boyfriend after six months.
Police called me and told this person was arrested and she had my some things that belonged to me 🙁
When my mom died she made it all about herself. Posted a long Facebook status about how MY mom’s death affected HER even though they’d never met. Then she got mad when I didn’t comfort her.