How did contraception change the way you view your partner?
June 29, 2025
Did you become less or more attracted to them?
Did your libido change?
17 comments
It makes me more interested in sex with them. Consequence free sex is my jam.
I finally found a partner that I *like* having sex with. Up until now, I felt like there was a part of me who was just doing it to be liked? Like, I was supposed to be doing it and liking it. But it really felt like it was a chore, like it was fake or performative, and I hated it. It didn’t feel like I was being true to myself. I actually became disgusted with sex.
Now, I can actually like and enjoy sex and not worry about getting pregnant. A win win win.
It didn’t. I dont notice any difference in libido or viewing of my partner with contraception. Lack thereof (aka children) however…
If they weren’t willing to use it, they no longer were my partner
It…didn’t? It’s an obvious non-negotiable, so when we were ready for sexy times, we used it. What a strange question.
No change.
But lighter periods on the implant meant more sex because whilst I’m not averse to period sex I have fibroids and ebdo and nobidy wants sex when it would leave an entire crime scene.
We came off it for trying for a baby and honestly? Initially great but infertility and trying for a while is a drag that can totally affect your sex life. 0/10 i do not recommend.
I was no longer attracted to my husband at the time. He repulsed me.
I started taking the pill when I was a teenager because I had been dating a guy for a long time and it was starting to get serious. I ended up marrying that guy eventually and we’re still happily married almost a decade later.
I will also say that after starting the pill I remember feeling super irritable for 2-3 months but that evened out with time. My libido decreased slightly but not significantly.
Hormonal bc (pills) lowered my libido, but it didn’t change how I look at him. When he got a vasectomy and it was his idea cause it’s way less invasive than other permanent forms of contraception, he got even more attractive to me.
It made me want to have more intimacy with him because the fear of pregnancy was gone forever.
My libido was definitely lower, but that was not a reflection on my partner.
It didn’t. I have been on hormonal birth control the entirely of our 22 year relationship with the exception of about 10 months in my early 20s (insurance stopped covering what I used and I couldn’t afford others and then Obama care passed and I was able to go back on it). And again for about 13 months 9 years ago when we were trying for a kid + pregnant + 2 months post partum to get IUD out in.
At all times he has been disastrously sexy to me and I’ve been disgustingly in love with him. Even during the hard times. On many, many occasions one of us has said to the other “I’m still mad at you, but I want cuddles.”
No change
While I dont see this man anymore, he is the one man I allowed to go condomless with me. I prefered that he was a little extra clingly with me when he got off. I noticed my libido spiked massively when I switched from the combined pill to the mini pill.
It made me decide he wasn’t a marriage prospect, because he thought it was my job to suffer to prevent him from experiencing any consequences to his actions.
Libido plummets with birth control.
It’s not negotiable.
But I’m the one stuck going through pregnancy if there’s any mishaps, so I deal with contraception most of the time. If a guy I’m seeing doesn’t like that I’m using it, he can kick rocks.
17 comments
It makes me more interested in sex with them. Consequence free sex is my jam.
I finally found a partner that I *like* having sex with. Up until now, I felt like there was a part of me who was just doing it to be liked? Like, I was supposed to be doing it and liking it. But it really felt like it was a chore, like it was fake or performative, and I hated it. It didn’t feel like I was being true to myself. I actually became disgusted with sex.
Now, I can actually like and enjoy sex and not worry about getting pregnant. A win win win.
It didn’t. I dont notice any difference in libido or viewing of my partner with contraception. Lack thereof (aka children) however…
If they weren’t willing to use it, they no longer were my partner
It…didn’t? It’s an obvious non-negotiable, so when we were ready for sexy times, we used it. What a strange question.
No change.
But lighter periods on the implant meant more sex because whilst I’m not averse to period sex I have fibroids and ebdo and nobidy wants sex when it would leave an entire crime scene.
We came off it for trying for a baby and honestly? Initially great but infertility and trying for a while is a drag that can totally affect your sex life. 0/10 i do not recommend.
I was no longer attracted to my husband at the time. He repulsed me.
I started taking the pill when I was a teenager because I had been dating a guy for a long time and it was starting to get serious. I ended up marrying that guy eventually and we’re still happily married almost a decade later.
I will also say that after starting the pill I remember feeling super irritable for 2-3 months but that evened out with time. My libido decreased slightly but not significantly.
Hormonal bc (pills) lowered my libido, but it didn’t change how I look at him. When he got a vasectomy and it was his idea cause it’s way less invasive than other permanent forms of contraception, he got even more attractive to me.
It made me want to have more intimacy with him because the fear of pregnancy was gone forever.
My libido was definitely lower, but that was not a reflection on my partner.
It didn’t. I have been on hormonal birth control the entirely of our 22 year relationship with the exception of about 10 months in my early 20s (insurance stopped covering what I used and I couldn’t afford others and then Obama care passed and I was able to go back on it). And again for about 13 months 9 years ago when we were trying for a kid + pregnant + 2 months post partum to get IUD out in.
At all times he has been disastrously sexy to me and I’ve been disgustingly in love with him. Even during the hard times. On many, many occasions one of us has said to the other “I’m still mad at you, but I want cuddles.”
No change
While I dont see this man anymore, he is the one man I allowed to go condomless with me. I prefered that he was a little extra clingly with me when he got off. I noticed my libido spiked massively when I switched from the combined pill to the mini pill.
It made me decide he wasn’t a marriage prospect, because he thought it was my job to suffer to prevent him from experiencing any consequences to his actions.
Libido plummets with birth control.
It’s not negotiable.
But I’m the one stuck going through pregnancy if there’s any mishaps, so I deal with contraception most of the time. If a guy I’m seeing doesn’t like that I’m using it, he can kick rocks.