How do balance feelings/logic within a relationship?
June 28, 2025
If someone makes you feel a certain way but you know logically that wasn’t the goal, how do you decide to continue/end relationships.
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I try to breathe for a few minutes, so i can analize what i am feeling and at the same time waiting for the feelings to tame down a bit and slowly allowing the logic to kick in.
I think your body will always tell you. If you know deep down this isn’t right for you, it will become clearer over time. It might take some time to adjust to the idea of ending the relationship. Try to listen to the voice in the back of your mind, to stress, to anxiety, to doubts… Good luck!
Hi there
Can we assume you’re already dating the person exclusively? Are you dating to marry? How has your romantic history been?
I’d suggest making a list, even if just a mental one (I guess an unromantic but logical way to go about it), of what are your non negotiables in a long term/indeterminate duration romantic relationship?
Like, really think about it, because in the long term, these things come up invariably. Think value systems, lifestyle factors etc etc.
Then the level of emotional connection and wavelength match. E.g. how do you view conflict resolution, do your communication styles etc align?
If the above are sorted (assuming you already have strong feelings for the person), ask yourself if you feel enough to truly see yourself with the person life long? This requires some serious introspection and hard questions to ask yourself.
Remember, the good stuff is easy to experience and enjoy. You can potentially have that with more than one person! And we start taking those things for granted as time goes by.
So, do you see yourself working through hard times and your differences with this person in a peaceful and productive manner?
As long as both of you have a similar view of relationships and life in general, it can work long term.
Caveat – this requires absolutely open and transparent conversations and discussions with the person.
We don’t have sufficient information about your age, history, what you’re looking for and much more, so this comes across as vague :/
Balance comes from knowing your worth and setting boundaries.
5 comments
I try to breathe for a few minutes, so i can analize what i am feeling and at the same time waiting for the feelings to tame down a bit and slowly allowing the logic to kick in.
I think your body will always tell you. If you know deep down this isn’t right for you, it will become clearer over time. It might take some time to adjust to the idea of ending the relationship. Try to listen to the voice in the back of your mind, to stress, to anxiety, to doubts… Good luck!
Hi there
Can we assume you’re already dating the person exclusively? Are you dating to marry? How has your romantic history been?
I’d suggest making a list, even if just a mental one (I guess an unromantic but logical way to go about it), of what are your non negotiables in a long term/indeterminate duration romantic relationship?
Like, really think about it, because in the long term, these things come up invariably. Think value systems, lifestyle factors etc etc.
Then the level of emotional connection and wavelength match. E.g. how do you view conflict resolution, do your communication styles etc align?
If the above are sorted (assuming you already have strong feelings for the person), ask yourself if you feel enough to truly see yourself with the person life long? This requires some serious introspection and hard questions to ask yourself.
Remember, the good stuff is easy to experience and enjoy. You can potentially have that with more than one person! And we start taking those things for granted as time goes by.
So, do you see yourself working through hard times and your differences with this person in a peaceful and productive manner?
As long as both of you have a similar view of relationships and life in general, it can work long term.
Caveat – this requires absolutely open and transparent conversations and discussions with the person.
We don’t have sufficient information about your age, history, what you’re looking for and much more, so this comes across as vague :/
Balance comes from knowing your worth and setting boundaries.
I balance it unsuccessfully.