Those who have a cheater another chance, what happened?
June 22, 2025
Did they improve? Do you regret it? Did you stay faithful to them? Was it worth it?
Particularly those with children and in longer relationships
22 comments
it’s not worth it. they did not improve. idk.. maybe some people are different but in my experience.. no
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They took it as a sign that I would continue to lay down and forgive, and they had all the power in the relationship. It just got worse and more embarrassing for me that I stayed as long as I did.
There was no trust left in the relationship and it basically turned into me monitoring her phone and social media like she was a child. Which was not only exhausting, but it didn’t even accomplish anything in the end since she cheated again anyway.
I definitely regret it and it was not at all worth it.
He cheated again and then got angry at me for being upset and ending it. Then he said he wouldn’t have to cheat if I wasn’t useless and annoying 🤣
Second chances rarely fix broken trust. Learned that the hard way.
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Giving him another chance was the worst mistake of my life. He cheated again and when I confronted him, he nearly killed me. I should have divorced him after the first time and been done. I would have saved myself from a LOT of trauma. It took me a long time to forgive myself.
They cheated on me again.
We divorced. I couldn’t handle the betrayal and he kept betraying me.
Things are much improved and he’s never done it again and we’re happy. But I wouldn’t suggest staying if I were you. It was a long arduous and terrible process to get to this point. To others is suggest starting over with someone else
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Nope. I ended up resenting him. Lost my sex drive. And emotionally cheated on him. It never leaves your brain. I promise.
After cheating the first time, we broke up and he spent the next few months trying to win me back. Begging me for forgiveness, buying gifts, saying what a mistake he made, even showing up to my parents’ house to beg for their forgiveness.
We got back together and things were really great for about a month. And then the sketchiness crept back in. He started hiding his phone/computer and was super protective of them, started accusing ME of having feelings for others. He had work parties but pretended SOs weren’t invited (and then I found out that was a lie).
We ended up breaking up. Turns out, he was getting a lot of attention from female coworkers and was entertaining them all. He didn’t physically cheat, but he had them all lined up ready to go for when we broke up. I think it would’ve ended with cheating if I stuck around.
Gave him another shot. He acted sorry, changed for a bit then slipped back into old habits. I stayed loyal but I never had a peace of mind thinking he’d do it all over again, which he did. Lesson? I should’ve walked away the first time. It’s true when they say: once a cheater, always a cheater.
They will always cheat again. Get out. Get therapy, make yourself happy
He married the next one he cheated with.
When someone shows you their true colours? Believe them.
They basically just kept cheating until I left them once they had children from the cheating.
I gave him another shot because we’ve been together for 7 years. He changed a bit but the trust was gone. I couldn’t look at him the same. We stayed together for a bit but it didn’t last. Wouldn’t do it again.
Ask yourself one question: do you feel lucky?
But really, ask yourself: are we both mentally, emotionally, and physically prepared to go through hell together without any guarantee it goes well?
He kept cheating and ended up getting some younger woman pregnant and expected me to stay after that.
I wouldn’t recommend it. You lose yourself in trying to figure out his every move, resenting him, and hating yourself for the chances you gave and for lying to yourself and others (bc why would u want anyone to know).
I just couldn’t love him the same but we are the best of friends now. He’s the one person I can truly count on for anything. I guess I would say that if you can truly let go, people are capable of change.
22 comments
it’s not worth it. they did not improve. idk.. maybe some people are different but in my experience.. no
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They took it as a sign that I would continue to lay down and forgive, and they had all the power in the relationship. It just got worse and more embarrassing for me that I stayed as long as I did.
There was no trust left in the relationship and it basically turned into me monitoring her phone and social media like she was a child. Which was not only exhausting, but it didn’t even accomplish anything in the end since she cheated again anyway.
I definitely regret it and it was not at all worth it.
He cheated again and then got angry at me for being upset and ending it. Then he said he wouldn’t have to cheat if I wasn’t useless and annoying 🤣
Second chances rarely fix broken trust. Learned that the hard way.
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Giving him another chance was the worst mistake of my life. He cheated again and when I confronted him, he nearly killed me. I should have divorced him after the first time and been done. I would have saved myself from a LOT of trauma. It took me a long time to forgive myself.
They cheated on me again.
We divorced. I couldn’t handle the betrayal and he kept betraying me.
Things are much improved and he’s never done it again and we’re happy. But I wouldn’t suggest staying if I were you. It was a long arduous and terrible process to get to this point. To others is suggest starting over with someone else
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Nope. I ended up resenting him. Lost my sex drive. And emotionally cheated on him. It never leaves your brain. I promise.
After cheating the first time, we broke up and he spent the next few months trying to win me back. Begging me for forgiveness, buying gifts, saying what a mistake he made, even showing up to my parents’ house to beg for their forgiveness.
We got back together and things were really great for about a month. And then the sketchiness crept back in. He started hiding his phone/computer and was super protective of them, started accusing ME of having feelings for others. He had work parties but pretended SOs weren’t invited (and then I found out that was a lie).
We ended up breaking up. Turns out, he was getting a lot of attention from female coworkers and was entertaining them all. He didn’t physically cheat, but he had them all lined up ready to go for when we broke up. I think it would’ve ended with cheating if I stuck around.
Gave him another shot. He acted sorry, changed for a bit then slipped back into old habits. I stayed loyal but I never had a peace of mind thinking he’d do it all over again, which he did. Lesson? I should’ve walked away the first time. It’s true when they say: once a cheater, always a cheater.
They will always cheat again. Get out. Get therapy, make yourself happy
He married the next one he cheated with.
When someone shows you their true colours? Believe them.
They basically just kept cheating until I left them once they had children from the cheating.
I gave him another shot because we’ve been together for 7 years. He changed a bit but the trust was gone. I couldn’t look at him the same. We stayed together for a bit but it didn’t last. Wouldn’t do it again.
Ask yourself one question: do you feel lucky?
But really, ask yourself: are we both mentally, emotionally, and physically prepared to go through hell together without any guarantee it goes well?
He kept cheating and ended up getting some younger woman pregnant and expected me to stay after that.
I wouldn’t recommend it. You lose yourself in trying to figure out his every move, resenting him, and hating yourself for the chances you gave and for lying to yourself and others (bc why would u want anyone to know).
I just couldn’t love him the same but we are the best of friends now. He’s the one person I can truly count on for anything. I guess I would say that if you can truly let go, people are capable of change.