TLDR:
I put a pregnancy test on the grocery list and my husband didn’t buy it because he determined it wasn’t necessary.
Reality check: is it obvious that a pregnancy test is an important and urgent grocery item?
My husband is in charge of grocery shopping, last time I put a pregnancy test on the list because I’m 7 days late. We just had our second in January, so it’s unlikely but I’m very anxious, in part because I had two preemies and would immediately want to consult with my OBGYN on how to keep this baby in as long as possible. (He knows all this)
Of course I could run out and get a pregnancy test myself, but with a small baby and toddler that’s not too much fun. I’m inclined to ask my sister (25F) to pick one up after work (she’s our neighbor), but I’m dreading his reaction, from past experience, I’m convinced he’ll see it as me punishing him by involving my sister in something private to us.
Also, in part it’s also about what it stands for for me, another in a long list of instances where my and the kid’s needs for care and consideration are not met. Especially because he didn’t check back with me, calling me from the store or something, but just single handedly determined that my peace of mind wasn’t worth a few bucks and minutes of finding it.
I’m assuming he’s subconsciously avoiding the anxiety of a potential pregnancy and doesn’t want to know, but it’s just hard being depended on someone to a certain extent when things like this happen.
Am I expecting too much by not wanting to ask and explain myself several times for him to respond to my requests? What are your views on me feeling it would be way less emotionally taxing to set our lives up in a way where I depended on him as little as possible?
Thank you so much.