Update on the text thread:
Me- I could be over thinking this but it feels to me like whether conscious or not, you’ve come to the conclusion that this can’t go any further. Which, is totally okay I mean we’re all only looking for one. Am I right?
Him- Shit, ***. Yes, I believe you are right.
I like you, but I can’t shake the feeling that this isn’t going to work. My heads been a mess. I’m sorry.
Well at least I can move on now. Lesson- trust your gut
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Original post- Oh, I’m bummed and the only person to blame here is me. I’d been seeing this guy for 2 months and deluded myself into thinking it was going well. This was until I realized that I’d been the only one putting in effort whether that was a first kiss, asking for his time, a phone call- really any bid for connection was driven by me. As soon as I realized this I told him that I noticed I was more assertive in asking for what I want and that it was important to me that someone meets me halfway with regards to effort. He acknowledged his lack of and said it was because he really liked me but had some fears that were paralyzing him. Since then- we had to cancel a meetup we had planned because he was sick and he hasn’t mentioned a singular word about when to see each other again and right now we’re limited to weekend because of the distance. I might be over thinking this but I feel like it’s probably best for me to tell him that I don’t think this is a fit? It feels weirdly like he might be backing out slowly in hopes I do it so he doesn’t have to? I’m frustrated- has anyone been in a similar situation and has perspective to offer?