Even in long term relationships, I can only recall not having sex for a considerate amount of time (1-2 weeks) right before breakups so things aren’t OK. The fact that people aren’t sexually active (when no illnesses or abuse is involved) for months and years shocks me. How? I can only assume you’re dating someone you’re attracted to, I can only assume if things aren’t OK for a long period of time you are breaking up/pausing? How does this happen?