**TL;DR:** Broke up with my long distance girlfriend after 4 years. Don’t know if it’s worth holding on and letting it go?
I (M24) broke up with my girlfriend (F23). Half of our relationship was long distance.
We started dating during the summer before college. We did long distance our first semester of college. She was in SF, and I was in Texas. Everything was going well. We communicated, loved each other, and did everything to see each other at least every two months. Afterwards, I started to feel unhappy and felt like I did not want to do distance anymore. Then, COVID and we continued dating since we were back at home for like 1 year and a half. (We are from the same hometown). During COVID, we started to have an actual relationship in person which I enjoyed, but we were going to do distance again eventually since COVID had to end soon enough. In August of 2021, I moved to Florida to study, and she went back to SF. We did long distance again but eventually broke up for the first time before the end of the year of (2021). Eight months later we started dating again and did distance for one more year until we graduated college (2023). When we got back together, we tried our best to make this work. We loved each other, respected each other, and we tried to make time for each other without sacrificing or being an obstacle to our social and career lives.
After college, we ended up coming back to our hometowns to find a jobs in our respective degrees. Fast forward today, I ended up moving back to florida to work in my dream job and she stayed back in her hometown to work at her dad’s business.
We decided to end things because she did not feel she had a place in my life right now, and I did not want to do long distance again. She wants to move to Florida but I am not sure when she will move. I am not sure if she actually wants a life here or if she will like it. I don’t want to continue our relationship and wait until she moves. She says it will be three months from now but I am no sure if that’s true. Maybe it will be three months or six months or a year.
Like every relationship, we had our issues, but I was not happy in our long distance relationship. Even though I was unhappy, I never had the guts to admit it. I was never honest to myself or her. What makes me sad is that she is someone worth holding on to. She can be my soulmate, but I am not really sure if the universe telling me that we were too young to be in this relationship and that it’s time to move on.
**TL;DR:** Broke up with my long distance girlfriend after 4 years. Don’t know if it’s worth holding on and letting it go?