TW I guess for body image issues.
For context, I’m an overweight man. 28 M, 5”7, 210 pounds. I used to be 230 and have slowly lost weight. About a pound a week, thanks to a change in diet and portion control.
Well, I’ve been dating this girl, F28, for several months now and we were talking about body image. She doesn’t like her body but I really love it. When it came down to my body, I mentioned I didn’t much care for it either and stupidly said “but you like my body anyway.” And her response was “well you’re getting there.”
I could tell in her eyes that right away she knew she said the wrong thing and I kinda closed off that night. I felt weird. Gross. I declined having sex that night.
I know I’m getting better. I know I’m on a weight loss journey and I’m seeing results. Belt is too big on me. Shirts are hanging looser and I needed to buy smaller pants. But I still feel gross in the here and now. The next day, we were talking and she made an advance on me and I just felt gross again. I felt gross in my own body.
I feel weird undressing in front of her now. I sorta don’t want to have sex anymore until I’m at a good size. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting here. I’m genuinely finding it hard to get into the mood with her now and I’m not sure if I’m just being stupid.
TL;DR gf made a comment about my body size and now I feel uncomfortable having sex with her.