My friend told me about a new expansion in a video game that we both play. I responded that I am starting to focus on working out, yoga, and career advancements and that I was more or so going to be playing less. I also mentioned I work 2 jobs now and that I wouldn’t really have the time, but will be down to play together when I can.
He became super dismissive, short and only sent one word responses and when I asked him why he just stated, that it was weird that I wanted to talk about the game, but I only had negative things to say about it. I never said anything about the game outside of the fact I’d be playing less and the reasons why.
He then went on to elaborate that he felt it was weird that I started the conversation about the expansion but then when he tried to go in detail about it, I immediately talked about how I wouldn’t even be playing the game much anyways.
I don’t know how or why he’d feel that was the case. Why and how did he find that to be negative and the problem? I just stated the expansion was cool, and that unfortunately I wouldn’t be able to play much and the reasons why.
I just feel like I need to walk away from this friendship in full because I don’t know how someone can hear you talk about good things and goals for yourself and take it negative or feel like that is shutting down a conversation. It just doesn’t feel productive to call or assume someone is being negative. It feels like he’s jealous or envious in my new found focus and that’s why he was being dismissive.
I don’t have the greatest social skills but I just feel like his reason doesn’t make sense, there’s deeper issues and I may just need to forgo this friendship.