So, I (25f) have been with my boyfriend (27m) for 3 years. He has always complimented my body and says he thinks it’s sexy. He has never made any negative comments about it. I am underweight (not by choice, I have medical problems that cause me to have a practically non-existent appetite and it’s extremely hard for me to gain weight). I have been trying to gain weight though, to feel healthier and better. With the fact that I’m underweight, it also means I don’t have much boobs or butt. But my boyfriend never seemed to have a problem with that. Yesterday, however, I was talking again about how I really want to gain weight and how im trying and stuff like that. And he says something like then your boobs will get bigger or it’ll go to your boobs or something like that. And I said that that’s not really how it works, and everybody’s weight distributes differently depending on your body type, and with my body type it probably wouldn’t go to my boobs or butt for quite a long time. It’d most likely go to my stomach first as I have seen in the past when I used to weigh more. He insisted that it would go to those places, and said he is “manifesting” the weight to go to my boobs so that they will be bigger. This kind of made my heart hurt. Like in that moment I felt like he wants a girl with bigger boobs and a bigger butt, even though he has never criticized my body before. Like why is it important where my weight goes? For me it’s about being healthyand feeling good. Now I’m feeling really self conscious. I can’t help thinking he prefers big boobs. He has even admitted before that he sometimes can’t help but look if a girl has a lot of cleavage. So I’m just wondering, am I overreacting and this is actually not a big deal? Should I forget about this?
Tldr; my boyfriend has always only said positive things about my body, but yesterday my boyfriend made a comment about my body that rubbed me the wrong way and I’m not sure how to feel about it.