My oldest friend Mark is turning 30 in a few weeks. We were best friends since 1st grade, and although we’ve grown apart since high school and moved away, it’s still all love from me. I think about him often and miss him. We’d hang out once a year or so and go camping if we happened to be around, but there hasn’t been a whole lot of keeping in touch otherwise.
His wife reached out to me on Facebook saying they were planning a weekend for his birthday (booking an Airbnb and everything) and invited me out to come help him celebrate. I started looking at flights and thinking about plans and asked her if it was a surprise. She said no, so I texted him – no response. Week goes by, I call and left him a voicemail – never got back to me.
She sent me pics of the airbnb they got, and I was just like “looks awesome, I haven’t booked flights or anything. I reached out to Mark a couple times and haven’t heard back!” She kind of just brushed it off and said it’s me and two others (who I know from way back) who will be joining them.
I don’t understand why he would ignore all my messages after not having talked for over a year but still supposedly want/expect me to fly across the country for his birthday. I really want to go, but I’m not going to book a plane ticket if he’s not going to say a word to me.
It crossed my mind that maybe he’s going through something (depression)? that could explain this, but other than that, I’m kind of at a loss. I don’t really feel like my presence is actually wanted.
TL;DR my oldest friend of 23 years’ wife asked me to fly out to celebrate his 30th with him. She sent me info on the Airbnb they booked, but despite reaching out to him several times to plan, he’s never contacted me in return. It’s been a few years since we’ve seen each other, but we both live on opposite ends of the country now.Anyone have any ideas as to what could be happening or a similar experience?