I’m not sure if I’m making to big of a deal about this.
Yesterday my bf and I came to his parents place for the weekend. This is my first time meeting them and was super excited about it.
His mom is incredibly kind and sweet. She has made me feel at home. His dad on the other hand is giving me weird vibes. He insisted on helping me bring my bags to the bedroom. While we were alone up there, he looked me up and down and said “sees why Ben is so happy.” He then said the “room is pretty sound proof” and gave a wink.
I just awkwardly laughed it off and we went and had dinner. Ben’s two sisters and their family’s got there after dinner and we all were drinking and hanging out. I went to the kitchen to get some water and his dad was in there. He said he was looking forward to what I wore on Easter. That it “would show more of my assets.”
I didn’t know what to do and just left and went to talk to Ben. I expected that he would stick up for me and talk to his dad. He did the opposite and said I should just ignore it. I said he needs to stand up for me. He then said I should feel flattered that he thinks I’m hot. I didn’t even respond to that. Just went to bed. Ben didn’t follow me.
This morning Ben said he was sorry for what he said. But he wasn’t completely sorry as he still is saying I should just ignore his dad. All day I’ve felt uncomfortable. I’m upset with Ben and don’t want to be near his dad. I don’t know his sisters enough to talk to them.
I feel like a disappointment as I’m being really quiet all day and have been on my phone a bunch. Everyone is noticing something is wrong with Ben and I, but won’t ask about it.
At this point I just want to leave. But my parents are in a different state and I’m 5 hours from home without my car. How do I deal with a creepy dad?
Edit: I called my dad and he booked tickets back home while we were on the phone ðŸ˜. I’ve never heard him so angry before. I’m trying to find a place to go while I wait for them in the morning.
Thank you all the for support! 💕
Edit #2: I’m at a relatives house now. My dad’s great aunt’s daughter lives about 25 minutes from where I was. My dad reached out to them and she came and picked me up. So now I’m just watching basketball with her and her family.
I waited until they pulled in the driveway, I then asked Ben to come outside. He was confused as to why I had my bag. I told him I couldn’t be with someone that would allow me to be in that situation without standing up for me. He was upset and said I was overreacting. I said goodbye and then left.
I did leave a note for his mom. Though I couldn’t bring myself to tell her everything. This is what I wrote – Maureen, thank you so much for your hospitality. I’m so sorry to leave without saying anything. Your husband said some uncomfortable things to me and I couldn’t stay. If you have any questions, I told Ben everything.
Thanks again all! Your support really meant a lot through all of this. I’m pretty sad, but feel good for starting up for myself.