My (28M) boyfriend told me (23F) that we should get a Prenup before we get married when he hasn’t even proposed to me yet, I come from a very loving family, When i was a kid though we didn’t have a luxurious life but my dad made sure his children were the happiest, and he worked hard very hard and my mom was always his biggest supporter, she married my dad when he was nothing and today my dad came to a position where he is listed among the most elite businessmen in the city, its all his hard-work and my mom’s support and thats the type of marriage I want, where there is no question of divorce, just patience, hard-work and faith in God, my dad always told me to trust in my Hard-work and not have any liking or lust for money,He is the best example to show that money does not buy happiness, and hard-work always pays off, i worked hard too and by Gods grace today Im a pilot and so is my boyfriend, we both started our training together so we have the same experience as well, my boyfriend believes that one day he will be a big businessman but he doesn’t really do anything to make that possible, today in his blind belief that one day he’ll be rich he told me that he doesn’t wanna lose all his money (which doesn’t exist) if we divorce in the future so he wants a prenup, I told him to first propose he said he can’t until i agree for a prenup, i told him how ridiculous it was for him to think that Im after his money when infact i have much more money than him, he says in future he’ll have more, i said lets think about it when you actually do have more money and ended the conversation…. Was i too arrogant? Should i sign the prenup? I honestly dont care for it but the thought that im after his money is what hurt me.
Update: So I spoke to my dad about this conversation i had with my BF. Turns out the prenup was actually my dad’s idea. It seems my boyfriend discussed with my dad about expanding the logistics sector and had some really good plans, so my dad decided to let him take charge and handle logistics. Hence, a prenup would make sure things don’t get ugly later on.
My plan is to get married at 25 and continue flying. I don’t know why my Boyfriend didn’t mention this conversation with my Dad.
I might have given an impression that my boyfriend is an idiot but i don’t mean to he is smart and talented but sometimes gives me half information which frustrates me. He never told me about the plans he had for the company but only kept saying he’ll make a fortune one day