So I 40f Filipina met a 56m french via a dating app. For context, we’re both married and separated a long time ago. He said he’s had 2 girlfriends since he and his Filipina wife divorced 12 years ago and I haven’t had any relationship since my separation.
We really hit it off on our 1st date, we enjoyed talking to each other and I really like his company. He was very charming. He only had 5 days in my city so I didn’t plan on meeting him for a 2nd date and told him that going on a 2nd date is not practical since he’d be leaving anyway. He insisted and asked to give us a chance since he will be visiting often anyway. I was bored so I went with him on a 2nd date and I was curious. We slept together (best sex ever) and he asked me if I want to be his girlfriend and I said yes without even thinking. We were together the entire 5 days he is in my city. He’s now currently in France and we still chat but his messages are becoming rare. I’m not sure if he was serious when he asked me about the relationship thing but I’m too afraid to even ask. He said he’ll be coming back in 5 months (he visits the PH 2x a year and plans to retire here in 3 years) but I don’t even know if I can sustain the “relationship”. He’s like a different person in chat. He was really sweet when we were together and I really like him a lot. He doesn’t go online as much as I want him to. I’m not sure if this worth investing my feelings in. This is the first time I tried dating someone who is not my own age and of a different race so I don’t know how to proceed.
I really want this to work but I’m too much of a wuss to ask him anything pertaining to our status. He hasn’t talked about it as well. We only talk about how our day went yadda yadda. He updates me on where he is going or what he’s doing but all the endearments has gone down the drain. How do I move forward with this? Help please??