I (24f) slept with a guy last night- he was insanely conventionally attractive and his body was actually perfect. Total Ken Doll. It should have been fun but I could not relax.
I’ve recently gone through a big life change, breaking up with my bf, getting sober, working out, losing 25kgs) it has been great! I feel really good about how I look for the first time ever. I have been getting a lot of attention from men (hot ones!) for the first time in my life, which feels great cause my relationship with my ex made me feel like a piece of furniture/sexless blob.
While I’m so happy with my body right now I have one issue- my boobs were huge before, like almost E cup at points, and since I’ve lost weight my boobs have gotten tiny, like A cup size. However, rather than being perky and cute, they resemble two deflated plastic bags with a bit of sand weighing them down.
I’ve always had bigger puffier nips and now that my skin isn’t being stretched they’re just large ish and look out of proportion..
I HATE taking my bra off during sex. I feel like I need to apologise for them. Or I start making jokes about them (not during sex of course) in an attempt to bully myself before my sex friend does.
Not that anyone has ever said anything. I wanted to get a boob job but got quoted 25k, which I just could not justify spending when I’m trying to pay off a house on my own + I’m not wealthy.
I often keep my bra on during, but I feel I draw more attention to the problem when I do. Also sleeping in a bra whenever I’m with a man absolutely sucks- it’s not comfortable at all even with a soft sport bra.
I get so embarrassed when I have no bra on. I spend the entire sex sesh focusing on holding my boobs in a hand bra or pushing my arms in to create cleavage. I can’t cum if my boobs are out. Too pre occupied.
This feels like such a first world problem but it makes me sad. I’ve never had good boobs even when they were big, but it’s so much worse now they’re deflated. I’d rather have no tits whatsoever than what I have now.
How do I stop worrying about this? How can I make sex more relaxing for me when I’m naked?