I, 18 year old male, and my girlfriend, 17 year old female, have been dating since august. (I was 17, she was 16)
Originally I asked her out in March of last year. At the end of the date, I said “I’m so glad you said yes, this date was a blast” to which she said “this is a date?”
I then apologized profusely in case I didn’t make things clear, and we grew distant for a bit but were still in a group chat since we are friends with the same people.
I referenced the event lightheartedly in august in the chat and joked about how it was my mistake. She then said “it was fun, we should do it again” to which I said “are you asking me out?”
Keep in mind, this is all in a group chat!! (Not to mention four months later)
She said yes, and we started to date. From the beginning I made it clear that I’m not a very touchy feely person. This is because of some trauma of mine. And she understood. Still does.
Now, here are some things I find odd. She spams my Instagram comments and spam likes the stories I post. This wouldn’t be a problem, but I have it in my bio, not to do this. It’s not even a “one or two likes or comments an hour” it’s about 10 notifications in the spam of 30 seconds Everytime I post. This freaks me out a lot, and I’ve now had to turn my phone on DND every time I post.
She doesn’t say much conversationally? Which isn’t inherently bad, but she says the SAME EXACT PHRASES EVERY CONVERSATION!!! “That’s adorable!” (In a weird baby voice) is her catchphrase at this point.
She also seems to be slightly less mature than I am? Which sounds so mean, I know. But I’ve tried to talk to her about serious things, and it’s like she can’t do it. I know very little ACTUAL facts about her, despite asking and inquiring often.
I also feel upset by a few things. 1: I am on a strict diet, and cannot eat much sugar, which she knows. Today, (Valentine’s Day), she brought me 24 chocolates (Ferraro roches) and I accepted but I felt kinda… off put? I can’t eat these. 2: she knows I smoke (medcard) and I was once speaking about substance use, and she accused me of doing meth. Ouch. 3: she has very little knowledge of the world? Like I once made a reference to an old president, Harrison, and she asked me who that was. I was taken aback as she is also taking US history this year, and they would’ve covered the presidents by now.
Maybe I am a big jerk, but I’ve grown uninterested, and don’t really know what to do. She’s sweet, but I cannot hold an actual conversation with her at all, and it feels like I’m dating someone who was very recently introduced to people and life, but she wasn’t, and we’re only 6 months apart so it’s odd.
I would any advice or feedback honestly. I can be harsh, and I’m aware of this.
TLDR: my girlfriend feels less mature than I am, and I don’t know how to feel/what to do.