Strap in because this is one doozy of a first post. My main question here is **”How should I go about telling her I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore?” and that “I have no more interest in supporting you financially.”**
I (23M) wanted to start dating around the end of last year, fully committing to getting all the basic apps together. I meet a girl on Boo and she’s both good looking and funny! First time we try to meet up, a storm hits and one of her car tires pop. Second time we try to meet up, she cancels because her grandfather died and she needs to go a few state away to check on his house. Then after that her plane back to our state canceled so she blew a bunch of money driving back instead of flying. Only then, did she find out that she was gone for too long on short notice so she lost her job. Gets a new job but has to fly back to the far away state to deal with the funeral and will-and-testament stuff. Gets back and finds out that the person she was living with (a family relative that was aware of the relatives passing) kicks her out of the house. My date is now living in her car with all her belongings, having to ask me for money for food and Ubers to get to and from work whenever her co-workers can’t drive her (or apparently abandon her at a gas station). There’s probably some parts I’m missing, but its fair to say she has hit life’s rock bottom, and I’ve done what I could to help her during these times because, for better or for worse, I would consider myself to be caring for other’s well-being. But now I’m starting to feel the impact on my wallet and account. Anymore and I think I might be heading towards the same situation as her.
The kicker here is, even after the first few weeks, I lost interest in her. But it’s not because of her life situation, it was the way she talks, she could barely text or call me without having to put me on hold, not listening to what I had to say, etc., I just wasn’t attracted to her anymore by anyway other than appearance and she could crack a joke or two.
Now I’m stuck in the dilemma of (a) i keep supporting this girl that I haven’t even met in person with for the past month and a half that I have little interest in, hurtling towards my own financial ruin VS (b) cutting ties with her, having to live with the fact that in doing so I most likely condemn a suffering individual to a life of homelessness or worse.
Also… this is the first girl I’ve actually been able to talk to past the first few texts and any bots/scammers. So uh…. a little advice would be appreciated…