I (18m) have ADHD and my head is pretty much a mess. I usually overthink if I stay at home, even got depressed during the pandemics because I couldn’t get outside. This past month I finished my high school and now I’m sitting at home with a lot of free time and anxiety about adult life. Yes I go to the gym and have many artistic hobbies, but it doesn’t help that much. The issue is, my girlfriend (18f) is really insecure. While I’m known for being friends with everyone and make jokes and that kind of stuff, she is more in her own. Many times when we are with my friends, everyone is making jokes and laughing while she starts to exclude herself of the environment. She does have friends and act with them pretty much the same way I do with mine, she just don’t like these friends of mine that much. The thing is, recently she started complaining about why I choose her. In her words, all of my female friends are really extrovert, funny and physically different to her. What she said isn’t false – my female friends are different from her and yes they are physically beautiful. Just as she is. She can’t understand that even tho a like this people doesn’t mean I would 100% have a relationship with them. Plus she doesn’t understand that I like many kinds of things. I genuinely like extroverts as well as introverts, gamer girls, delicate girls. I’m not the kind of guy who has a specific type. I do have my preferences tho and she is one of them. But the answer “why you choose me” caught me off guard. Due my adhd, it’s REALLY hard to think about things I do everyday. Like, I know I love her and she have MANY things that makes me fall in love, but I’m not listing it everyday. So when she asked me this I literally had a stroke trying to stop the voices in my head to list the things, and I simply couldn’t. I know I love her and I know why I love her, but couldn’t say it. Literally answered “because I know I love you”. It’s so hard for me to organize my thoughts and list things I use everyday because my brain seems to turn this into habits and delete the rational part of it. This issue of her being insecure is really upsetting me. She is progressively being less active in the relation. If I don’t start sex she likely doesn’t start, if I don’t take her to clubs she doesn’t. I talked to her about it and she said it is because she feels scared of being less fun than my female friends. I went to clubs sometimes with friends and it was cool, but it’s different. While with her we usually go in a romantic way, with my friends it’s in a crazier way. We even ran drunk on the streets at night and it was fun for sure. The thing is I would REALLY like to do these kind of crazy things with my girlfriend. She is essentially my bestfriend too, I would really like to enjoy with her that way, and in other aspects we are like this. But in this aspect she seems to be less active because she is insecure as she says. What can I do about it?